6 tips to protect your love during quarantine..
So, somebody said they heard that this lockdown has been really hard on relationships.
According to research posted in Forbes Magazine, only 18% Are Satisfied With Their Communication During Coronavirus Pandemic.
The sudden change brought about by quarantine conditions is tough on courtships and marriages. Being in constant close quarters with your loved ones can be an eye opener or an overload if you aren’t used to it.
If you’ve been experiencing more quarrells, misunderstandings and side eyes, using mindful communication can be a lifesaver for both your personal development and your relationship.
1.) Location, Location, Location
2.)Once youve used this strategy to hijack your brain centers for more objective reasoning, You can name the emotion for your partner.
E.g. “Babe…I feel really disappointed and frustrated because these dishes are still here. ” or “Hun, I feel extremely angry and violent right now. I need to…….or It would be great if you….”
Touch is a magical way to bring your attention to the present experience and communicate intimacy to your partner even when you’re not so happy with them.
Try this: As you are naming your emotion to your partner, touch them on the arm, chest or hand while you say it. It says: Im not happy about this right now but I love you. Your partner is more likely to want to communicate with you and empathize with your experience.
When we are in close quarters with another individual for an extended period of time, lines become blurred. You can become so immersed in their experience – what they’re doing, what they’re watching, what they’re saying..that you forget to tune in to yourself as much as you would having more time apart.
Try this: Schedule time in the morning to meditate or do mindful movement (yoga, exercise, etc) alone. Take a walk in your garden, pull up some weeds, drink your tea on the back porch, etc. Throughout the day keep yourself on a schedule of your own goals, training your brain to be keyed into your own experience.
Last but not least, when you and your partner become frustrated, remove your personal feelings from the equation and try to see things from their perspective. Allow yourself to feel kindness and empathy for them and then choose your response.
6.) Apologize genuinely
It’s really difficult to apologize when egos go head to head, but naming your partners emotion, in your apology can break down so many walls.
1.) Name it
2.)acknowledge your part
3.) Ask for support
Example: It seems like you were disappointed and frustrated when I forgot to fold the laundry and watched my show all day. Im going to work at doing much better at that. If you can help me remember, Id like that too.
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